I once overheard someone say, “you shouldn’t talk badly about yourself, you’re listening after all.” This stuck with me and since then I’ve strived to eliminate negative self talk from my life and the life of my friends and family.
I have always been a firm believer in treating yourself right, ya’ll know I’m always preaching to have grace with yourselves. I honestly cringe every time someone puts themselves down. Shit like “I’m so fat”, “I’m a bad mom”, “I’m not pretty enough” are TERRIBLE things to say about ourselves. These words are damaging and honestly do nothing for you.
I am no exception to this believe me, but every time I catch myself saying something badly about myself I try to rephrase and restate it. So the next time you say something bad about yourself I challenge you to either change the phrase or say something positive, OR DO BOTH! You know you deserve it! So the next time you say, “I’m so fat!” or “I’m so ugly” try saying, “I love X, Y, Z about my body” or “I love X, Y, Z about my looks. Tailor this tool to your negative self talk. It is soooooo easy to fall into this trap when we compare ourselves to others. As much as I hate to admit it I am 10000% guilty of this. It’s almost second nature in our world of social media, this is something I am working on everyday. When I find myself doing the ugly habit of comparison, I stop, compliment that person and then compliment myself! Sounds insane but it helps. Jordan Peterson once said, “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today”.
How we feel about ourselves is a part of what we reflect out into the world, if we are unhappy with ourselves it’s going to show to others. So stop putting yourself down and start showing yourself some love! If you’re truly unhappy about something, change it. We all have things about ourselves that we want to improve but the road to improvement is not paved with put downs and negative thoughts. It’s paved with self-motivation and self-love ya’ll!