If you had asked me 10 years ago what I wanted to do with my life I would have said, “I plan to be an ER nurse by the time I’m 25”. Well now I am 27 and am finishing up my Bachelor’s in communications.
On my road to becoming a nurse I worked as a nurses aid. It was at this time that I decided I did not want to be a nurse after all. For a large part of my life that had been my plan and it was a very large part of my identity. I took some time off of school to figure out what I wanted to do. During that time, I also grieved because I was 25 and had not reached my goals nor did I have any idea what I wanted to do with my life. I decided to go back to school online and study something I knew I would use everyday, communication.
Societal pressures can make us feel like we have to go to college right after high school, meet THE one, settle down and start a family. I’m here to tell you it’s OKAY to change your degree 5,000 times, it’s OKAY to not have your career figured out right after college, it’s okay to not want to get married but rather travel, IT’S OKAY! As much as we like to think we have control over things we actually don’t. What we do have control over is how we react to the ebb and flow of life. Yes, it is still hard for me to accept that I’ll be 27 instead of 22 when I’m getting my Bachelor’s degree but I am achieving it none the less! Focus on what you’ve achieved instead of what you haven’t (travel, babies, self-love, etc). Be proud of yourself and take time to grieve for the goals that have passed then find a way to incorporate them back into your life. Or set new goals that match the season that you’re currently walking through. Just as I did with nursing, let go of goals that no longer make you happy. Trust the process and and accept that you are right where you’re supposed to be!
As always, have grace with yourself. Accept what you have control over and don’t let pressures dictate how you live your life. Be proud of yourself for your current achievements no matter how small they may be.